Happy One Year Celebration of Sisters: It Is Never Too Late To Grieve! I am thankful to my team of coaches, editors, family, friends, and WriteLife Publishing for solidifying the manuscript to publication.
I decided to proceed with another year of the Celebration of Sisters ice skating fundraiser in a slightly different format. After a decade and a year, 2022 marked the true finale of the special event to commemorate the lives and memories of my cherished sisters Margie and Jane raising over $80 for Mass General Hospital Internal Medicine and Eating Disorder Departments. I am forever grateful to the generosity, kindness, and devotion of many – my heart is full. Stay tuned for the next chapter.
This past year I have had the honor and pleasure of meeting new people, been more open in sharing myself and my sisters with others and felt the warmth and compassion of other bereaved siblings with whom I felt surrounded like a warm blanket.
We have more work to do to advocate for bereaved siblings, often the forgotten mourners. The needle has been moved since I lost my sisters 41 and 32 years ago respectively and for that I am thankful and indebted to all who work to make it happen. To name a few organizations for sibling support: The Compassionate Friends Sibs, Open To Hope, Bereaved Parents USA, COPE Foundation, and Grief Tool Box. In addition, some of the wonderful Podcasts include Where’s The Grief, Surviving Sibling Loss, L.E.A.P., The Surviving Siblings, and Good Grief.
One week after the finale of Celebration of Sisters, I fell and broke my right foot. Thankfully I have the unconditional love and support of my family and friends and rocking the crutches due to my skating training. I will use the time to work on my second book, catch up on my reading, and plan book events for year two of Celebration of Sisters: It Is Never Too Late To Grieve. My grandson had a ball with my scooter that has been a game changer getting around. The goal for the three-month recovery is the arrival of my second grandchild due mid-January.
On a final note, I am honored to be selected as one of the keynote speakers at the Bereaved Parents USA Conference in July 2023.
I wish you all a Happy, Healthy and Peaceful New Year!
To order your copy, now available on audio, please visit www.judylipson.org
I leave you with the following by Emily Dickinson:
“Hope” is the thing with feathers -
That perches in the soul -
And sings the tune without the words -
And never stops - at all –“
Book Corner
Susan Casey lost her brother Brian, Rocky and has written a powerful book in Rock On: Mining For Joy In The Deep River Of Sibling Grief. Thank you, Susan, for sharing Rocky and other sibling’s experiences. There are so many nuggets Susan eloquently writes that resonated with me, made me think, and warmed my heart. I will point out a few and I encourage you to read the book.
“Grief and joy are wedded, they are one….One is more predominant than the other at any given time, depending on which one we shine our light on.”
“Our siblings have a critical impact on shaping who we become…”
‘If not us, who? If not now, when?”
Memory
With three daughters, our father attempted to teach us how to play baseball. With one bat, one glove, the swing set served as first base, the trees second, the bulkhead third, and a makeshift home plate. The ball pitched by our father directing Margie, Judy, and Jane to run the bases. I don’t think we were going to The World Series!
Skating
The growing number of Adult skaters is wonderful! Opportunities from the multiple disciplines of skating, camps, comradery, support, and health benefits immeasurable. To learn more about adult skating, the following Facebook groups keep you connected with fellow skaters:
Welcome to the premiere of the Celebration of Sisters newsletter! I want to thank you for your support and generosity in sharing the journey to write Celebration of Sisters: It Is Never Too Late To Grieve, and a decade of the Celebration of Sisters ice-skating fundraiser to honor the lives and memories of my beloved sisters, Margie and Jane Lipson.
On November 7, 2021, we gathered for the grand finale of Celebration of Sisters. In my blue dress adorned with silver sparkles, I stood center ice waiting for the music of Edelweiss, a rendition by Andre Rieu to commence. The nerves that traditionally overtook me, were not present, I felt uncharacteristically calm. The lovely music allowed me to float across the ice, the wind blew in my hair, and joy was evident in my wide happy eyes.
At sixty-five I was living the dream and beaming to have skated the performance of my life to honor Margie and Jane. The love and support from all the donors, skaters, and champions of the event for the past decade exuberated from the entire arena and from those watching the live stream. I stepped off the ice and broke into sobs and needed to take in the emotions of the day- the fortieth anniversary of the loss of Jane, a decade of paying tribute to my cherished sisters, and the kindness of numerous special individuals. Hugged by many, I smiled and relished the rest of the magical day.
One month later, on December 1, 2021, Celebration of Sisters: It Is Never Too Late To Grieve was released. Am I dreaming? My private story kept to the vest for decades now out for the masses. Writing my memoir has allowed me to be more open and have honest conversations with individuals who have read the book, and with friends new and old, establish a new connection and reveal deep meaningful stories never shared. The themes of the book from grief, love, sibling relationships, and secrets seem to resonate across many lives. I had put up so many walls unable to talk about the loss of my sisters or grief. Today, I am capable to open the dialogue. It is never too late to grieve. To order your copy, now available on audio, please visit www.judylipson.org
I leave you with the following quote by Thornton Wilder
“There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.
Book Corner
For years I was alone in my grief. Thankfully today there are many groups and support for bereaved siblings like The Compassionate Friends, The Open To Hope Foundation, and The Cope Foundation. Monthly, I attend a Sibling Grief Book Club. One book I particularly liked, Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano tells the story of a young boy, the sole survivor of a plane crash who goes to live with his aunt and uncle. There is a parallel story to the lives of the individuals on the plane. Ann tackles the grief of the young boy and his aunt and uncle with grace and dignity.
Memory
Fearful, that after years of suppressing my grief, memories had been lost, I realize that is a falsehood. Please allow me to share my beautiful sisters Margie and Jane with you.
Music was an integral part of our lives and as girls, we went to see many musicals. Our favorite was The Sound of Music. Before attending each show, our mother would play the 33 record and have us listen to songs multiple times and in the car sing the songs. Margie wanted to be Liesl, me Marta, and Jane Gretl.
Skating
Figure skating is my passion, my joy, and the connection to my sisters in a sport we shared as girls. I have started to work on figures, tracking the lines repeatedly on the ice. I find figures very soothing and challenging. It requires discipline, good edge quality, and control of your body. Back to basics!
Philanthropy was part of my upbringing. We were taught to give back to various charitable organizations. U.S. Figure Skating’s We Get Up platform recognizes that in life on and off the ice, when you fall, you get up.
The Get Up® campaign was launched by U.S. Figure Skating in 2017 to help skaters and non-skaters alike to recognize the grit, passion, and perseverance needed to Get Up in the rink and in life every day.
The campaign is a celebration of the strength, resilience, and determination it takes to be a figure skater. Our goal is to attract new skaters to the sport, grow our fan base and empower our members to take pride in who they are as figure skaters while making a positive difference in their communities. https://www.usfigureskating.org/wegetup
